tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post6975534859808653130..comments2023-08-05T20:58:00.245+10:00Comments on Livin' and Lovin': We're Young & in Love, so what? Kriselle Mendozahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-9062143818370602282013-07-30T07:26:04.166+10:002013-07-30T07:26:04.166+10:00Ashley, that's great! I'm so honored to kn...Ashley, that's great! I'm so honored to know that I inspired you to post about your relationship! I definitely think you should if you feel like there are some important aspects that your readers could benefit from! Can't wait to read it! [:Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-6671566464229151592013-07-30T07:14:52.274+10:002013-07-30T07:14:52.274+10:00This is great Kriselle. I went through a lot of is...This is great Kriselle. I went through a lot of issues with my past relationship that was 3 years. We grew differently, but we didn't break up because we fought too much. If it's broke, you should fix it! <br />This is so insightful, I'm in a LDR and I get reader's asking about it. You kind of convinced me to post about it!<br />xoxo<br />AVAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-40667710476719563292013-07-26T08:56:08.112+10:002013-07-26T08:56:08.112+10:00Haha, thank you so much for the encouragement, AJ!...Haha, thank you so much for the encouragement, AJ! I really appreciate it [:Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-41894044665772965522013-07-26T04:58:04.637+10:002013-07-26T04:58:04.637+10:00This is such a lovely post, Kriselle. I can't ...This is such a lovely post, Kriselle. I can't offer too much more insight beyond what all these other kind people have shared but I will say, at 34 years old, I'm *still* figuring it all out and I think that's just fine. I gave myself permission to not be perfect long ago! :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-47251023946544680172013-07-25T15:26:17.995+10:002013-07-25T15:26:17.995+10:00Melissa, thank you so much for your input, I reall...Melissa, thank you so much for your input, I really appreciate all that you said. & yes, I agree that communication is key to any relationship, romantic or not. I love hearing your thoughts as well as everyone else's. Thank you so much! [:Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-44194002845024916572013-07-25T13:47:42.782+10:002013-07-25T13:47:42.782+10:00You have some very smart people commenting above. ...You have some very smart people commenting above. I've been with my husband for 22 years (we've been married for 13) and I'm also a COD so I understand many of the things you put forth. <br /><br />I didn't want to get married because I never believed that a piece of paper made a difference in how committed you are to someone. We did get married and while it's conventional I can't say that it ever really changed the way I feel about my husband (it still feels weird saying husband to be honest).<br /><br />I feel that there are no guarantees in this life even with marriage and that you have to roll the dice. I love my husband with my full heart and yet marriage is difficult! Communication about the way you feel and how you think are key. Human beings grow and if you don't allow the person that you're committed to know all that you are (and are becoming over time), it doesn't matter what you said at the altar because you need to live in the now. Don't get me wrong the now can be good - it just needs to be shared with your partner!<br /><br />My husband is my best friend and we've been through a TON together. I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else (and I'd believe he'd say the same) but I still try to take it day by day.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17749322177091479268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-18310662401070167062013-07-25T11:15:55.727+10:002013-07-25T11:15:55.727+10:00Haha yes, that last comment about COD's is ver...Haha yes, that last comment about COD's is very true. But thank you so much for your response and support! I greatly appreciate it! [:Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-45225338242271042202013-07-25T09:46:01.664+10:002013-07-25T09:46:01.664+10:00This is a great post! I'm not a religious pers...This is a great post! I'm not a religious person but your main point is true: You CHOOSE to love that person every day. Everyone here has free will. (That said, you can also choose to cheat on a spouse, break it off, blah blah.) Loving someone is not an auto-response virus thing that happens when you get married. It is a conscious decision (on both parties). I'm a COD (child of divorce) as well, and I took for-friggin-ever to commit to one person and marry that person. (Ie. we dated for 7 years before we got married...ok mostly that was because we were both lazy to plan a wedding and it dragged out. Ha!) I think CODs either go nuts with dating or they commit... probably because of their experiences as CODs. <br /><br />You and your guy do what's right and what feels right for you and your guy. No one else. Chris https://www.blogger.com/profile/14325419933819615526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-57279086133257683772013-07-25T06:59:33.492+10:002013-07-25T06:59:33.492+10:00I definitely agree with you Beverly, when you say ...I definitely agree with you Beverly, when you say that your spouse shouldn't be your everything. It's just not a healthy way to be, and I've definitely been guilty of making my significant others my everything in high school. But thank you so much for your thoughts & support! I really appreciate it! [:Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-12788797131560690762013-07-25T06:57:27.035+10:002013-07-25T06:57:27.035+10:00Thank you for briefly sharing your story with your...Thank you for briefly sharing your story with your husband, Melissa! Thank you for your support as well [:Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-83031718846798818062013-07-25T06:52:39.956+10:002013-07-25T06:52:39.956+10:00There was a song when I was young (dating myself h...There was a song when I was young (dating myself here) titled, "I Just Want To Be Your Everything." While I believe that people can have a happy, successful relationship with or without a deity, or a miserable one WITH one, I think you have your head screwed on right with the idea of NOT expecting your spouse to be "your everything."<br /><br />Nobody can be somebody else's "everything." Attraction, tenderness, feelings of love are great, but having other priorities, like faith and family, help make a relationship last. Best of luck to you on this path.Beverly Diehlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00392288953821757887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-46019107575170751762013-07-25T06:38:19.169+10:002013-07-25T06:38:19.169+10:00I don't know if my husband is my soul mate. W...I don't know if my husband is my soul mate. We met in high school and we were friends before started dating and then we fell in love. I do know that throughout the years, even when I experienced other kinds of love, nothing has ever come close to the feelings of true love and devotion that we have for each other. And after the most difficult times in our life together, we came through it stronger and with a deeper love. Having been married now for 21 years, I can say that all relationships are work and when you give the relationship attention and make it a priority (just like your relationship with God) it will flourish. You are on the right track! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-65570035888979036932013-07-25T06:26:20.753+10:002013-07-25T06:26:20.753+10:00Thank you so much for your thoughts & input, C...Thank you so much for your thoughts & input, Carolyn! I definitely agree with you! I definitely want to work and get to that 16 year mark myself, one day [:Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5758417646215192432.post-24187697482960848802013-07-25T06:22:04.197+10:002013-07-25T06:22:04.197+10:00As someone who has been married for 16 years, I ca...As someone who has been married for 16 years, I can honestly say marriage is HARD! It isn't all love and roses. My husband and I have had good years and bad years - that's why vows say "in good times and bad". If you want a strong marriage, it's a lot of work. Both of you need to be committed to making it work for the long haul. If one of you isn't sure, the marriage will fall apart. Do I believe in soul mates? Not really. My husband isn't the kind of person I ever saw myself with, but my mind and heart were open to experiencing new things and meeting new people. Sometimes it's the little, silly things that make you fall in love with a person.Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01808500046884874240noreply@blogger.com