Last Friday I received a gift from my boyfriend. It was a
gift that I had known about for a while now (he told me before I found it), but
I have since then been waiting for when he’d be ready to give it to me. I had
given him the same kind of gift on Valentine’s day, and he admitted that he was
working on the same thing, but he had started it before me.
The gift was very simple: a jar filled with reasons why we
loved each other. I gave him the reasons why I love him on Valentine’s Day, and
last week he gave me his reasons for loving me.
I’m a very sensitive and emotional person especially with
relationships, so you can bet that I was sobbing while I was reading them in my
room and processing it with my boyfriend over text. There were things that he’d
said about me that I had never even thought that I had that kind of effect on
him. It was such an honor and blessing to know that I was able to influence him
in such a way.
The night before, we had gotten into a pretty bad fight
after worship practice at church. He had to take me home, and it was to a point
to where he wouldn’t even flinch when I talked to him. But don’t worry, we
talked about it the next day. As much as I hate sleeping on a fight, I’ve come
to realize (although may not have completely accepted) that sometimes it is
necessary. Part of it may also be due to the fact that we don’t live together
so it’s easier to do that rather than if we did.
As I am processing reading through all the notes that I just
read about why my boyfriend feels the way I do about me, I go on Facebook, and
my friend had just posted a status about a Bible verse. The reference? The
ever-famous 1 Corinthians 13, also known as the Love Chapter. The whole chapter
wasn’t quoted, but the part that I was reminded of was from verse 7: “[Love]
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
(NASB).
Why did that verse stand out to me so much? It’s because
it’s just another confirmation and reminder of what you need to do to have a
relationship work out. Like what I said in a past post, it’s more than just the
good times in a relationship or marriage. It’s about the bad times too. No one
likes to have them, but every time you overcome an obstacle with that person
you become stronger, especially as a couple.
So there’s a little peek into my relationship with Darell,
once again. Lots of people only post about the good times, but hey, real
relationships aren’t always good. Because of that (and many other things we’ve
endured together), I’ve learned to take pride in my relationship and not to be
afraid to talk about not-so-good times. I definitely hate them so much, but I
realize every single time that there is a reason for it all.
